“When we suffer, our conditioned response tends to be to wonder what mistakes we made in our choices. The idea being that a mistake must have been made that has caused the state of suffering. We choose to hold this negative belief because of how it gives us a sense of control (in being able to prevent the suffering from happening again).
This gives an interesting example of the rippling effect of beliefs:
1) If you believe that to suffer is a mistake then you believe in the existence of mistakes.
2) If you believe in mistakes then you live in a world where your power of choice — instead of being a moment of empowerment — is a moment when you can fall.
3) This is to live in a reality where there is jeopardy and that is to live in a world where you do not feel safe.
4) To not feel safe is to live in fear.
5) To live in fear is to be in a state of suffering.
The conclusion being:
If you judge suffering to be a mistake then you will live within that judgment and that is to be in suffering.
That which you judge, you end up holding to you.”