Although this article can be read alone it is PART ONE of three in a series.
The Abundance of Feeling series:
Is Your Dream Limited or Infinite? < You Are Here.
Is Your Dream Limited or Infinite?
Infinite Dreams are based on what you want to feel.
We each birth with a dream for our life — a dream that is expressed as an intention to feel and be. This is because our spirits exist within and dream of states of feeling (rather than states of definition).
We birth to feel and be — not to attain or accumulate.
What this means is that none of us birth into this world with an intention based on some state of definition, like earning a certain amount of money (“I will be a billionaire”), attaining a particular high position in society (“I will be president”), or achieving a certain level of fame (“I will have the most people following me on social media”). These are all human dreams, which is not to imply they are lesser dreams, but is to recognize them as a different type of dream that is far harder to fulfill (because they are based upon ideas which are inherently limited, hierarchical, and competitive).
“I will be a billionaire.”
The dream of being a billionaire used to be the dream of being a millionaire. The reason it shifted is that enough people have become millionaires to devalue it as an achievement. One day the same will happen with dreaming of being a billionaire. As such, it is a goal that has to be constantly chased because — when seen clearly — it is a dream to be in a certain top percentage (such as the wealthiest 1%) and, as we know, the rich keep getting richer.
It is not that it is wrong to dream of having a certain amount of money, but the realization I want to convey is that your spirit does not dream in this way. It dreams of the feeling of being abundant which is — at its heart — simply the feeling of being free to do whatever you want to do. Having lots of money is certainly one way in which we imagine this kind of freedom, but being rich is not the only means of feeling free and abundant.
“I will be president!”
To dream of being president is to dream of a single job that only a very few people, coming from a pool of billions, can hold. It is a competitive dream to be “the one that makes it”. Although a person in this position may want to help their country, it is absurd to believe being president is the only — or even the most effective — way to help your country. To specifically want to be president is to want to be the sole winner of one of the hardest races in the world.
It is not “wrong” to dream of being president and winning that competition, just as it is not wrong to dream of climbing Mount Everest. It is however a human dream that is based on specific definitions — not a dream of your spirit — and is therefore much more likely to end in an experience of failure.
Where we may dream of fulfilling a specific role, our spirits may instead dream of being a leader who works to bring equality and freedom to everyone. In this dream, every potential role is considered, not only those where power and position are competed for. Dreams that birth from our spirits are dreams that can always be experienced (because they are not based on competing for limited places).
“I will have the most people following me on social media.”
To dream of having the most social media followers is to dream of being the most famous or most popular person in the world. Again, although this is not wrong, it is not how our spirit conceives of reality. Our spirit may dream of being widely loved, being popular, and being surrounded by the feeling of support and validation. In this, don’t let the word “popular” throw you; it does not need to mean “the most” popular. At its heart it is the dream of being surrounded by love and, when seen in this light, the realization is that — like money or a position in society — it does not need to be quantified.
So it is not a mistake to dream of being “the most” popular, but what is that really about? What is the difference between wanting to be popular and wanting to be “the most” popular? When this is considered, we quickly see that needing to be “the most” popular rather than just being popular, and needing to be “the most” powerful leader rather than simply being a powerful leader, comes from a place of insecurity — namely a need for approval.
Want versus need.
This position of insecurity can be explored through the feelings associated with the dream. The difference between want and need is a key to understanding whether a person is coming from a desire for a feeling (a want) or an attachment to a particular outcome (a need). So you would ask: Is it that you simply want to be abundant, or do you need to be a billionaire? Do you want to be a leader, or do you need to be The President? Do you just want to be popular, or do you need to have the most followers in the world?
As spirit we want to explore experiences in human form — this is the intention that sets our birth in motion — but those experiences are all open descriptions of general states of feeling (rather than specific closed descriptions). The beauty of this is that all of our spirit’s dreams can come true. If you will learn to conceive of and focus your intentions for this life to be feeling-based dreams — rather than mental goals — then you are aligning with the potential for success by not setting yourself up to compete for limited resources.
Everything you want is a feeling.
Let your dreams be states of feeling you WANT to experience, and not states of definition you NEED to experience.
“I want a bigger house.”
Let’s look at another example. You may say, “I want a bigger house”. The first thing to do here is to make sure there is no need or attachment underpinning your desire. So it is okay to say, “I want a bigger house”, but you are setting yourself up for potential failure if that becomes, “I need a bigger house in order to be happy”. To believe that is to be so attached to the bigger house that you are effectively telling reality you refuse to be happy until you get what you want. This is therefore a commitment to NOT being happy.
Next is the realization that what you want isn’t actually a bigger house, it is the feeling of living in a bigger house. Recognizing the difference between these two ideas (the thing and the feeling of that thing) is a powerful key to understanding how the experience of your dreams is far more attainable than you may have imagined. Moving to a bigger house will certainly give you the feeling of living in a bigger house, but it is not the only way it can be felt. For example, changing how you use the rooms in your home, ditching some unnecessarily large furniture, renting a place in a communal art studio, or utilizing a little used loft, yard or roof space could also give you the feeling of having more physical space.
Another good example of this is that I often find when I focus on abundance that I stumble across things I want to buy on sale. In my mind I may have been focusing on the idea of having more money, so I could be free to buy anything, but the realization is that getting the items I had already been imagining — at a price I could afford — is actually the feeling of abundance I was really asking for.
“I want more money.”
These ideas all lead to the realization that even our most generic human dream of “I want more money” is still a dream of a feeling. When you dream of having lots of money, you are not really desiring the physical possession of money nor specific numbers on your bank statement. Sure, it may be thrilling when you see your first big bank statement, but — because all feelings are relative — rich people get little joy from thinking about their bank balances. To dream of money is to dream of freedom and that is a feeling.
You don’t want money, you want the feeling of money.
I imagine many of us may respond to the above statement by saying, “I would really like the actual money, thank you very much”. This is an understandable response, but I ask you to move past it by remembering that in transitioning to the idea of money as a feeling — as opposed to “actual money” — I am not saying you cannot manifest your abundance as cold-hard cash, I am suggesting that you remain open to wider possibilities.
This article is not about trying to get you to NOT dream of certain things, or NOT to dream in a certain way. The reason it is important to emphasize this is that I do not want to set up a dilemma, a state of antagonism, or duality within you. This isn’t about “spiritual dreams of feeling are good and human dreams of definition are bad”. This isn’t about dividing anything up.
The meeting of freedom is the meeting of your own infinite nature. It is therefore about learning more and more of what is possible, rather than learning about what NOT to do or what is impossible. So I am not asking you to stop doing anything. Instead, I am asking you to start focusing on what you want to feel instead of states of definition you wish to attain or possess because when you explore your feelings, you will automatically find yourself imagining the fulfillment of those feelings through states of definition.
When you dream of the feeling of money, you are naturally going to think of definitions that express being abundant. The secret is to not become attached to any particular definition, but to dream up so many wonderful ideas of how your abundance could be expressed that you can’t choose between them. So the idea isn’t to NOT dream of having beautiful things or attaining powerful positions, but to dream of so many wonderful things, and so many incredible roles you could play, that you aren’t attached to any of them in particular. This diversity of definitions then becomes a powerful description of a state of feeling that is felt to exist across them all.
See the dream of feeling that lies in the heart of your many dreams of definition.
It can be hard to express our dreams of feeling because there are only a few feeling words to use, which doesn’t give us a lot of focus upon. For example, I want to feel happy, abundant, joyful, safe, nurtured, supported, and loved — these may be clear descriptions but it’s hard to get excited about them. By using many definitions, we can articulate the feeling in our heart much better than by just polishing one fixed idea. Also, by dreaming up numerous possibilities, we free ourselves from believing that one particular thing must happen in order for us to be happy.
There are infinite routes to a dream of feeling.
“I still want more money!”
If what you want is more money in your life, then I encourage you to meet the feeling of abundance through the realization that you can feel abundant without money — see how this is the same as realizing that it is possible to make your home feel more spacious without buying a new home. This basically means that the best way to attract money into your life is to take the focus off of money as a thing, and instead focus on the feeling of abundance through means other than possessing a pile of money.
There is something you want to feel and you are calling it money; it does not have to be money, but you are calling it money.
What is it that you really want?
What if you don’t call what you want money?
What do you most want to feel in this life?
Read the next article in this series: True Happiness isn’t a Reaction — It is the Feeling you Hold for Yourself.